In a previous article, I talked about why it might not be a good reason to get back with your ex. And while I still hold the same sentiments, the truth is, not everyone fits into one box. Sometimes you have to be open to what life throws at you to live a fulfilling life without regrets. If you have been contemplating on getting back with an ex who you can’t seem to get out of your mind, hold up a second before acting on those feelings. There are only a few reasons to get back with an ex that do make sense. Here are a few of them:
You’re both able to admit your mistakes and do what it takes to fix them
For any relationship to work, both partners have to be willing to own up to their mistakes so as to be able to move on. When getting back with an ex, this reason is more than important so as to realize and admit to the things that led to the relationship ending in the past. Making amends for those wrongs and dedicating yourselves to avoiding those behaviors moving forward is a step in the right direction.
The timing was off
Timing is everything, even in relationships. You might meet someone today who’s wonderful and checks all the boxes of an ideal partner but if the timing is off, then the relationship can never work. Sometimes a person needs to hit some personal growth milestones, transition their career or location, or date around before they can ‘get there,’ so to speak.
The breakup wasn’t caused by anything such as infidelity, lying or manipulation
Different couples break up for different reasons. Some are forgiven while others aren’t. If you an ex broke things off for some other reason other than infidelity, lying or manipulation, then your relationship has a fair shot at actually working out. It could be that you broke up because you were in different cities and both of you couldn’t handle a long distance relationship. In such a situation, if your ex happened to be in your city again, you can most definitely get back together.
You haven’t broken up and got back together before
An on and off relationship is the biggest sign that a relationship is toxic. Being stuck in the cycle of an on-again, off-again relationship is not a good reason to get back with an ex. In fact, this is the definition of insanity where you do the same things over and over again and expecting different results.
If this has been a cycle in your relationship, then trying to be in a relationship one more time will end in premium tears.
You have made changes in your life that would make the relationship successful now
It’s cliche, but if the saying “it’s not you, it’s me” was actually applicable when you and your ex broke up and you’ve since made positive changes, you might have a good reason to get back together. Sometimes your ex isn’t the reason for the breakup, you are, and being able to recognize that is healthy and honest.