As if relationships couldn’t get harder, now there are unspoken rules? What? Dating in this day and age must be hard. I honestly feel for all you millennials trying your luck in finding love now with all the crazy personalities we have. To be completely fair though, unspoken rules in relationships have been a thing since dating became a stage that almost all couples had to go through before finalizing things. They have been there since back in the days when I was dating and probably when our parents were dating as well. So what exactly are the unspoken rules of relationships? Well, they are basically a list of things you should never do to your significant other, to maintain mutual respect and understanding between one another. Curious to know these unspoken relationship rules? Read on to find out:
Be faithful to each other
Unless yours is an open relationship, this unspoken rule holds for all relationships and couples shouldn’t break it. Cheating is unacceptable under any circumstance. This is why the leading cause of breakup and divorces for most relationships and marriages is infidelity. Trust, once broken, is never quite the same again. If one partner is having trouble with fidelity, then maybe he or she isn’t ready to commit.
I becomes we
When two people decide to be in a relationship, and especially a long term one, individuality becomes a thing of the past. However, this doesn’t mean that you lose your identity in a relationship. You should still be the unique person you have always been but now take into consideration your partner’s feelings and needs. For example, taking big life decisions will involve both of you and your partner reaching an agreement.
Learn to compromise
There’s a complexity to compromising. With gender roles ever evolving it’s important to recognize it’s not about who wears the pants. It’s about balance. Compromise is an inherent part of a relationship. You will have to sacrifice in a relationship. That’s the nature of relationships. If you want your way all of the time, stay single. It’s about finding a healthy balance in compromise. Both people in a relationship must understand that necessity of compromise and sacrifice in a relationship to make it work.
Always say good morning and good night
This is not very difficult but it’s actually one of the most broken unspoken relationship rules by many people. If you constantly fail to do either of these, then there really is a problem between the two of you. You can do this by texting your partner and if you really want bonus points, call them. Your busy schedule should not hinder you from showing your loved one that you are thinking about them.
Never reveal your arguments to your friends
It’s very important to keep relationship issues between the two of you. Respect their privacy by expressing concerns and complaints to your partner only — not to friends, family members, and definitely not on social media. This helps you both to heal and repair your issues by becoming each other’s advocate.
Never ask for something that you are not willing to give.
It could be money, their time, or doing something for you. Whatever it is you ask your partner, you should be willing to do the same if they asked for it from you. This unspoken relationship rule is one that most people don’t know about but actually exist. For example, you could ask your partner to lend you a huge sum of money and they actually do it. If you refuse when they ask the same, your partner will resent you because of the favour you asked before. You end up breaking their trust, which pushes them to start refusing your requests in the future.
Update them about your whereabouts
It’s considered good relationship etiquette to let your partner know where you are and who you are with. This build a sense of trust between the two of you. On top of that, this small gesture helps to avoid a lot of misunderstandings and many awkward discussions and situations.
What are some other common unspoken relationship rules that you wish more people knew about? Let me know in the comments section!