Cheating or infidelity is the number one cause for breakups in relationships and divorces in marriages.
It’s completely normal to suspect your partner of infidelity because humans are naturally overprotective with the ones we love.
At one point in a relationship, we’ve all suspected our partners of cheating. And I know that for most of us ladies if we wanted to dig up some dirt or evidence on our partners, we probably have the means to do so.
But before doing so, you probably need to look out for some of these signs of a cheating partner:
That Gut feeling
Are you feeling slightly uneasy about something your boyfriend or husband is doing or the way he’s acting?
Don’t ignore or try to shake off that feeling. Trust that gut instinct because it’s almost always right.
If you’ve never been the jealous or suspicious type, but now you’ve developed uneasy feelings and anxiety, he is probably cheating.
An altered schedule
Is your man all of a sudden working late and sometimes on weekends?
This could be a sign that he is cheating. Also, if your spouse has never been away on a business trip and suddenly finds a need to travel for work, that could be a sign that they are having weekend getaways with an affair partner.
Secretive phone or computer use
The number one giveaway for a cheating spouse or partner is the way they guard their phones as if their lives depend on it.
If their phones and laptops did not need passwords and now they do, that’s not a good sign. Additionally, if they did have a password but you knew them but they suddenly change them, they could be cheating.
You will also notice that your partner never relinquishes possession of their phone and even take it into the bathroom when they shower.
Periods where your partner is unreachable
A cheating spouse is less likely to answer phone calls or text messages.
In this case, they will usually have a lot of excuses such as they were driving, in a meeting, dead asleep or their phone was on silent.
Also, if your partner has travelled for a business trip or is working late and is unreachable, that’s a bad sign.
Additionally, if your partner is unreachable while working late or on a business trip, that’s a bad sign.
Money transactions can tell a lot about your partner. If money is disappearing from your shared accounts or he says he’s broke without proper explanations, something’s up.
Additionally, if you see large cash withdrawals or evidence of purchases from places you rarely or never frequent, that’s not a good sign.
Truth is, infidelity costs money: gifts, trips, wine and dinners, hotel rooms, etc.
Change in bedroom behaviour
A sudden shift in romantic energy with no accompanying discussion of him wanting something different is a big giveaway on if he is cheating on you.
It could be an increased sexual drive or not wanting any sex altogether, these are signs to watch out for.
They accuse you of cheating
If your partner is suddenly accusing you of infidelity, then they are probably the ones cheating.
These claims may be a weird way of distracting you from what they are actually doing.
The above are some of the common signs that most cheaters display. However, the easiest way to confirming your suspicions is to simply ask. But if you ask and can’t get a straight answer, you can decide to remove yourself from the situation entirely. The choice is up to you, so focus on whatever feels right.