“I’m not ready for a relationship right now but we can continue seeing each other.” Raise your hand if you have ever stuck around with a man even after they have dropped this line. I see all of you ladies raising your hands and I sympathize with you. You probably stayed and hoped that he would change his mind if only he saw how great you are. Nonetheless, I’m sure it ended in premium tears.
So, what do men really mean when they say they are not ready for a relationship?
You are not what he’s looking for
So you’ve been “dating” this man for a few months and then, he drops the -I’m not ready for a relationship right now — line. And you wonder, what did I do wrong? Am I not good enough?
Truth is, you could be the greatest woman who ever lived and walked on this earth, but if you are not what a man is looking for, then he will never commit to you.
You might be the side-chick
If you feel like you’ve been having a great connection but he’s not ready to fully commit to you, you might be the other woman.
I know this stings, but if he doesn’t want to get serious with you, there may be someone else who’s occupying his mind. So do your investigations sis and find out what’s really going on!
He’s not over his ex
If he says he’s not ready for a relationship even after you’ve been with him for quite some time, chances are that he’s not over his ex.
Sure, he may have told you he’s over her, but of course, he’s going to tell you that! If he told you the truth, you wouldn’t be seeing each other. In such a situation he may have hopes of getting back with his ex and is only using you as a distraction.
He’s happy with the situation
Is the man you are “dating” is getting all the boyfriend privileges without truly committing and acknowledging that you are his girlfriend? Yes? Well, why would he invest in a relationship when he’s getting everything he wants right now minus the commitment? You played yourself, sis. So don’t get mad when he says he’s not ready for a relationship.