Life in your 20s can be very confusing. You are expected to be an adult, but half of the time you don’t really know what you’re doing. It’s like there’s a constant battle between your expectations and your reality. You feel like we aren’t doing enough and there’s a constant fear that we won’t achieve anything. And even you have this pressure to get things done, it’s important to realize that you are not superhuman. Don’t feel that you have to figure out everything before hitting 30. Your 30s aren’t the end of your life. So pace yourself and be thankful for the milestones you achieve. In this piece though, I will share some insights into how you can make the most of your 20s without feeling the pressure that the world puts on you.
Follow your passions
This sound easier said than done, but in your 20s, you should focus on your passions. Most of the time, our parents seem to have a clear picture of what they want us to do. Go to university, get a degree and finally secure a well paying job. But if this isn’t your passion, you will be one miserable young adult.
I know parents and especially African parents can be scary. However, you can sit them down and tell them you have a different picture in your head. If your passion is music or art, you can ask them to finance that instead. Because, truthfully, at the end of the day it’s your life and not theirs.
Say no to relationships that don’t make you happy
Young love can be consuming. But it’s important to be able to have a certain balance between your relationship and other parts of your life. The truth is, this might be your only relationship. You might kiss a few more frogs before getting your prince charming. It’s important to realize when a relationship no longer makes you happy and be able to get out of it before it’s too late. To really make the most of your 20s, you should get into relationships that make you a better person.
It’s okay to rest
When you’re a young adult, you’re told to work really hard so that you can rest in your old age. While this is true, it’s important to keep in mind that you need to rest and not feel guilty about it.
And if you’re the kind of person who likes to feel productive, you probably struggle to enjoy your downtime. However, make a point to have at least one ‘unproductive’ day each week and not let yourself feel guilt about it.
Make valuable friendships
In your 20s it’s important to choose your friends very carefully. Friends not only give you emotional support now, but future support as well. If you have sincere, wise, and good friends in life, they will influence your future choices very much with their advice and help. They may make you able to think differently and develop a new approach to life. Remember, your friends are a reflection of who you really are.
Just do it
Start before you feel ready is a great piece of advice. Most of the time, we procrastinate doing things because we don’t feel ready. We think that we must have the perfect plan or wait for a perfect time. But truth is, there’s no perfect plan or time to do something that we’re really passionate about.
If you want to start a YouTube channel, start it now. Want to start your own business? Start today. Don’t wait until tomorrow. Because most of the time when we put off doing things, we’re just scared of failure and embarrassment.
Don’t compare yourself
It’s tempting to compare yourself with how far your peers have reached. But don’t do it. To really live a wholesome life, you should always be thankful for the life you have now and keep working towards a better life. That’s the key to really making the most of your 20s. You may feel the pressure to marry or have kids just because your classmates or peers are all taking this step. But don’t rush into anything just because you don’t want to get left behind. Move at your own pace. You will be happier and at peace with yourself in the future.