No woman should ever have to go through a miscarriage. Even so, it happens more often than we’d like to admit. Truth is 1 in every ten women has gone through a miscarriage but the topic is so rarely talked about that it’s been considered a taboo. For this reason, so many women go through miscarriages silently because of the stigma associated with it. Healing after a miscarriage takes time and patience so don’t beat yourself up too much for not feeling better after the incident. Even if you are the strongest woman out there, guaranteed, you will feel a range of emotions. You will be sad, angry and resentful that this happened to you and possibly feel withdrawn from friends and family especially those who are pregnant or just had babies. You may have trouble eating and sleeping at first and accepting the finality of it all. You may cry a lot, or you may not cry at all. These are all among the many natural, healthy responses to a pregnancy loss. Remember: Your reaction is what’s normal for you. Here are some coping tips you can use on your journey to healing after going through a miscarriage:
Grieve as much as you’d like
If a pregnancy loss happens, you’re likely to experience many feelings and reactions. And even though you can’t wish them away, understanding them will eventually help you come to terms with your loss. Understanding your emotions and feelings after a miscarriage will help you to grieve and lead you on your way to healing. Don’t beat yourself up for not getting over the pregnancy loss as fast as you’d like. A miscarriage is just as hard as losing a child so take your time and grieve this loss.
Turn to your partner for support
You might not know it, but your partner might be the only person in your life who might understand the pain of losing your pregnancy. Remember that he is mourning the loss of a baby too but may show that grief in a different way. Sharing your feelings openly with each other, rather than trying to protect each other, can help you both start healing after the miscarriage.
Consider reaching out to a mental health provider
For some women, the emotions may be too much to bear and this can drive them over the edge. A therapist or counsellor can be helpful in sorting through the complicated emotions and grief that may accompany a miscarriage. Women with a history of depression or anxiety in particular can benefit from checking in with a mental health professional. If you’re religious, ask your pastor, priest, or spiritual leader for guidance.
Even though you might feel completely helpless and unmotivated, caring for your body shouldn’t stop. In fact, self-care becomes more important now more than ever as your body heals from pregnancy loss. Hydration, good nutrition, light exercise, and sleep will help the body heal. Consider trying a new physical activity that brings you joy or allows for an emotional release.
Join a support group
If possible to make your healing process after a miscarriage easier, you can consider joining a support group for women who have gone through the same ordeal. Sharing your feelings — through a support group, with a friend or online — with others who experienced a miscarriage can actually be a comfort. Since so many women suffer a miscarriage at least once during their reproductive years — at least 10 to 20 per cent of pregnancies end in miscarriage — you may be surprised to find how many others you know have had the same experience but never talked about it, or maybe never talked about it at all.