I always say there is nothing that is new under the sun because it is true but some things still make me wonder why they happen or why the people in such situations remain in them. I already talked about why it is so hard for people in toxic relationships to leave and communication came up as a major cause for relationships turning toxic. What have relationships turned into these days? How do you ensure that communication in your relationships does not breakdown?
It baffles me that people in romantic relationships could go for days on end without talking to each other. I understand that people can get very busy and that life happens but if this is someone you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with, lack of communication should sound an alarm. I have thought to myself that maybe it is because I come from a different era where communication between couples was pivotal and that things are just way too casual these days.
Signs There is A Communication Breakdown in Your Relationship
- You talk a lot less than you used to
Remember the late night calls, early morning texts and the sweet goodnights? Where did they go to? Looking back, you really cannot pinpoint where the rain started beating you but somehow, you drifted apart. Life sure does happen but if you talk to each other a lot less than you used to, your communication has been affected and you need to get to the bottom of that if you are to save the relationship.
- You feel like the other person is not listening or perhaps you are not
Feeling like you are talking to a wall – No nod, acknowledgement or feedback from your partner to show that they are listening? This is a sign that you are not communicating.
Do you listen when your partner speaks? Or does he/she not make sense anymore and you feel like they are being a nuisance?
- You are always guessing how the other person is feeling
When is the last time your partner told you how they felt? When communication breaks down in a relationship, the partners tend to assume what the other person is feeling without getting it from the horse’s mouth. You guess that maybe he or she is upset or you assume that they are done with the relationship.
This causes overthinking and overreaction. You come to conclusions that are untrue because you are not communicating in the relationship.
- You are afraid to bring up certain topics
The reason is because in the past, these topics have led to fights and quarrels or even went for days on end with silent treatment as a result. This makes you avoid them at all cost or if it comes up, you will walk on eggshells, sugarcoating and being overly careful not to say anything that might hurt your partner.
This is a clear sign that you are not communicating, If you were, you would have hushed out anything and it would not lead to further fights.
- You feel alone most times
In a relationship but feeling alone and lonely often? Your communication has broken down and you now feel like a single person in a relationship.
- Confiding in other people
Your partner is no longer your go-to person for anything. You feel that he or she would not listen or they would brush you off. Are they always belittling your thoughts and plans for the future? You would definitely not go to them for anything which shows that there is breakdown in communication in the relationship.
- Non-existent sex life
If your sex life is MIA, it means that you are not communicating in the relationship. Fix that.
Have you ever been in a relationship where your communication was strained and that you felt you were better off alone? Was there communication breakdown in your relationship? How did you fix that? Was the relationship salvageable or did you call it quits? I’d love to hear from you guys.