Kids are curious little humans. It is during this time that they learn and take in information, so naturally, you should expect them to ask a lot of questions.
Has your child ever asked you a question that completely caught you off guard? How did you handle it?
Most parents shrug or laugh off some of the things that kids might ask. However, this approach isn’t the best. There is a reason why they asked that particular answer and, in most cases if you don’t answer them, they’ll find someone else to answer them.
It is always best to take time to understand what it is they are asking and why they are asking before you can answer. Also, always be ready for follow up questions once you answer one.
If you are an expectant first mother, here are some of the most common questions to expect from your child once he/she starts getting curious:
Where do babies come from?
In most cases, this isn’t your cue to start talking about sex to your child.
So, here is what you can say, “When a man and a woman love each other, they make a baby together. That baby grows in mom’s stomach and after a while, the baby comes out.”
Why do you and dad sleep in one bed?
This question commonly comes up when you don’t allow your child to sleep with you in the same bed, or when you won’t allow them to sleep together with their siblings of the opposite sex.
You could tell them, “Because mom and dad are grown up and married. That’s why we sleep together.”
Why don’t I have a dad?
For single moms, this is the most heart-wrenching question you will ever receive from your child. So, best be prepared to have this talk.
In this case, it’s always best to be as honest as you can. For example, you could tell them:
- He wasn’t ready to be a father.
- We lived far away from one another.
- He needed time to deal with some issues of his own.
- He became an angel (and that’s only if he passed away)
When is grandma coming back?
Knowing what to say to children when a loved one dies can be a challenge, especially if you are grieving.
Having been in a similar position, no amount of explaining will ever be enough. When I lost my grandmother, my 3-year-old niece kept asking this question even after explaining numerous times.
You can tell your child,” She is now living with God. But one day we will join her and live with her too.”
Why don’t I have a pee-pee like Mark?
This question will most likely come up when they start interacting with other kids or when they join school.
This is the perfect time to hop onto the private parts talk. Remember to use the correct anatomical terms for these parts.
What are some of the most shocking questions your child asked you? Feel free to share your experiences and how you responded to them.