No relationship on the face of the earth is perfect. And if you think that you have a perfect relationship, I’m sorry to break it to you but you must be living under a rock. Even if you’ve met your soulmate and you’re the happiest you ever been, there’s always a way you can improve your relationship. It’s easy to get comfortable in a relationship especially if you have been with the same person for a long time. And as the saying goes, “Familiarity breeds contempt”, the same can be said for relationships. Without ongoing effort, you and your partner might eventually find yourselves stuck in a loop of recurring problems, or living in a boring routine that winds up driving you apart.
Ask instead of assuming
No matter how well you think you know your partner, it’s dangerous to make assumptions about what they’re thinking, especially during tough moments. Mind reading usually leads to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. One way you can, therefore, improve your relationship is by asking for clarification instead of assuming. Say, for example, your partner says something that doesn’t sit well with you, instead of assuming they meant to hurt you, you can ask what they actually meant. However, most people who have been together and “seemingly know how the other thinks or feels” tend to assume and then
Make time for each other
Amongst both of your busy schedules and nonstop responsibilities, the most foolproof way to guarantee that you make time for each other is to set a night every month or even week dedicated to doing just that. Regardless of if you’re looking to spice up your relationship or wanting an activity that doesn’t include Netflix, the commitment to go on a date is one night — but the happiness that comes from it will last much longer and improve your relationship tremendously.
Compliment each other constantly
It’s so easy to fall into the habit of nit-picking in a relationship, but if you want to stay together happily, you’ll want to focus on the positives instead. This can be done by keeping an eye out for good things and then offering sincere compliments, like pointing out how much you enjoyed a dinner your partner made. Encourage each other to notice the good things and to say them out loud, more often.
Figure out your love language
To improve your relationship, both people in the relationship have to find out what their love language is. Love languages come in different forms. From physical touch to receiving gifts and words of affirmation – these are just some ways people expect to be loved. For partners whose love language may be different from each other, it’s important to talk about this so that there aren’t any misunderstandings. Practising each other’s love language will [you] stay connected and in tune with each other.
Be quick to apologize
Sometimes being right isn’t as important as being compassionate. Whereas conflicts with your significant other will vary, not every argument is a challenge that needs to be won. Don’t get us wrong — we aren’t telling you to take blame for everything, but to decide which battles are worth fighting for. Although there’s glory in knowing you’re right, there’s maturity in apologizing during an argument that isn’t as important as the person you’re arguing with.