You know how you meet someone, have a great connection, go out on a few dates and start hanging out more and more but don’t put a label on the relationship? Yep! That’s a situationship. A situationship, in simpler terms, is basically a relationship that has no label on it, like a friendship but more than a friendship, but not quite a relationship. I know — I’m confused as well! Okay, simply put, the keyword here is confusion. If you’re simply confused about how someone you are dating feels about you, then you, my dear, are in a full-blown situationship! To add salt to injury, if you and the person you claim to be dating have never had the “What are we?” talk — I’m sorry but, you are in a situationship! If you’re still confused and don’t know whether yours is a situationship or a relationship, here are 5 signs to look out for:
You haven’t met their friends
You may have met a couple of your partner’s friends, but not their inner circle. And if you have met any of your partner’s people, it was likely unintentional and in passing, like on the way to their house together. Formal introductions are not a thing in a situationship, because, well…how would you even be introduced?
You avoid talking about the future
Any kind of future – whether it’s a week from now, or a year. Most people who are in committed relationships give some kind of thought to the future of their relationship. But when you’re in a situationship, you avoid talking about the future at all costs. Though it may not be spoken in words, you instinctively know not to ask. There are boundaries around the discussion of your ‘relationship.’ You feel as though you don’t have the right to ask, “Where’s this going?”
The issue about dating someone else is pretty grey
When it comes to a relationship, it’s pretty standard that you’re not going to be dating someone else. But what about a situationship? It’s a pretty grey area when it comes to whether you’re actually together, or you’re just friends. However, if you’re in a situationship, you’re probably not seeking other people to date, either. If this was just a ‘friends with benefits’ situation, you might be looking for someone else with a little more permanence in your life. But a situationship is almost a relationship – just enough that you’re not looking to date anyone else, either.
You see each other mostly at night
When you’re in a situationship, you’re probably only heading over to their house during the evening hours. That is to say, the main reason that you get together is to have sex. You’re probably not seeing a lot of each other during the day. You’re also definitely not going on dates. Your relationship is largely physical.
You don’t go on dates
In a situationship, you definitely don’t make plans to go on dates together, unlike when you are in a relationship. In a relationship, those romantic gestures are to be expected, but not in a situationship. At most, in a situationship, you make plans to hang out casually. Maybe you both really want to go see the same movie, or maybe you grab lunch together. Those aren’t dates, though. At most, if you’re in a situationship, you’ll probably be hanging out together at home.