If we lived in a perfect world, all kids would grow up having both parents in their lives. However, a perfect world doesn’t exist. Separations and deaths happen, leaving behind broken homes and hearts. Because of such occurrences, particularly separations and dead beat individuals, single parenting is on the rise, now more than ever. And even though, single parenting in our society is still looked down upon, people who find themselves in this situation can still live happy and positive lives. Being a single parent doesn’t necessarily mean that life will be harder for you and your kids. You can still turn a bad situation into a positive one. Here are some tips you can use to navigate single parenting:
Have Realistic Expectations
If you set the bar too high, you are bound to be disappointed. Set realistic expectations when it comes to single parenting. You might have a do-it-all attitude but realistically speaking, you will at some point break down.
You need to let some things go and do your best in different situations. Decisions should be made to help make your life more streamlined with your top priorities. For instance, you may have to skip making home-made lunches for your child and give them lunch money instead because it gives you one less thing to do in the mornings. They don’t need the best clothes or most fabulous toys that money can buy when they know they have you.
Single parenting comes with a lot more guilt than other types of parenting. Well, you need to ease up and let go of that guilt because there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Something has to give, especially when you are the only one raising your kids.
Don’t get sucked into feeling guilty because you can’t do everything on your own. Yes, your child doesn’t have a mum or a dad like other kids do. Yes, your child cannot have whatever they want all the time. But this is life, and it is not always fair. Although it is sad, it is not the end of the world. Stay focused on the importance of your relationship and the fact that you are trying your mightiest to be a great parent and provider.
Take Care of Yourself
Self-care is essential for parents, single or not. However, single parents often forget me-time because they have too much to do in life. What they don’t realize is that prioritizing yourself regularly can make you feel refreshed.
The self-care methods you pick can only be activities that feed the mind, soul, and body positively. Say, you can get some exercise during the week and attend religious services. By taking care of yourself, you can provide the best care for your child, too.
Develop a Support System
It’s important to realize that single parenting comes with so many challenges. Therefore, you shouldn’t kill yourself with responsibilities and stress by having a do-it-all attitude. You can ask for assistance from extended family and even friends.