We see them in magazines, on TV and social media and think they have the perfect relationship. However, interracial couples go through the same problems that same race couples go through, if not more. Not only do they have to deal with normal relationship problems, but they also have to deal with the race issue. Ideally, love should have no bounds in this regard. While interracial relationships are embraced more now than before there are still people who may harbour negativity or judgment about interracial couples. This is just one of the many things that problems that interracial relationships have to deal with. So, if you’re thinking of giving an interracial relationship a try, here are some things you should be prepared to face:
Your cultures will clash
In interracial relationships, because both partners have been raised in different cultures, a clash in cultures is bound to happen. It could be in religion, food and basic societal norms. Unfortunately for you, different value systems can easily cause conflict in this kind of relationship. If what matters most to one person doesn’t matter to the other, the relationship isn’t sustainable in the long term if both people aren’t willing to compromise. A clash in cultures becomes even more evident and difficult to deal with when kids are in the mix. It is, therefore, best to discuss these cultural practices before going in too deep into a relationship.
You will experience negative assumptions about your relationship
Most people who date or are married to someone of another race or culture may experience some stereotyping and rude assumptions. So, be prepared for people to make comments about their kids, their sex life, and their taste.
This is more evident and common in Africa. For example, when people see a black woman dating or married to a white man or vice versa, many people assume that one person is receiving financial help from the other.
Friends and family may disapprove of the relationship
If you are planning on pursuing an interracial relationship, your friends and family may disapprove and be unsupportive of the relationship. Some may react by telling you that you will have it hard in life and if you do get kids, they will have it rough. Rather than angrily labelling them ignorant racists and dismissing them, try to address your family’s concerns.
Be prepared for stares, insults and whispers
People just can’t help but stare at interracial couples. Sometimes they are fascinated by them and other times, they are just cooking up negative assumptions about the couple. In any case, if you are thinking of pursuing an interracial relationship, be prepared for both good and bad reactions from people in public.
You will experience crossed wires
Even when you and your partner communicate, you may end up in conflict. This all boils down to cultures. Different cultures communicate differently. Your partner may interpret what you say and do differently than what you actually mean. This may result in long-term misunderstanding and renewed conflict, and if you don’t open up and communicate your feelings, you may hold grudges, which ultimately may lead to a split.