I’ve seen women stick around a guy who was either abusive, disrespectful or downright unfaithful thinking that with time they’d eventually change them. I hate to break it to you ladies, but you can never change a man who doesn’t want to change. Even the purest and most godly love cannot change a man unless he is ready and willing to change. If he’s not ready and willing, then knowing when to walk away is important.
The timing might be off
With men, it has a lot more to do with timing and proximity, rather than a woman making them change. Ever had an ex-boyfriend you really cared for who couldn’t settle down with you and some years later he’s settled down with the next girl? Then you wonder what the hell you did wrong? Chances are, he probably just was not ready at that time. Not to say true love and all the jazz doesn’t exist, it does, but maybe if you had caught him at a later time he may have been more committed and faithful even if it didn’t work out in the long run.
He isn’t where he wants to be career-wise
Men become ready for commitment at different stages of their lives, some before others, and some never. In Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, he relays that men typically aren’t ready until they have reached a somewhat stable place in their career goals. I agree with this. Men are traditionally the providers, so financial stability makes men feel capable. Not to say this is true for all, but it is something to consider.
What if the roles were reversed?
If the roles were reversed and you were the one who was acting up in the relationship – cheating, being disrespectful and unable to commit – would he be as patient as you are with him? Would that man try to change you? We all know the answer to this. Men aren’t as patient and forgiving as we are and the moment you start acting up, they cut you off. So the next time you think you can change a man, I suggest you think about this.
Ladies, you can never change someone who isn’t willing. Just bear in mind that this guy you are dealing with right now is not the man you need, even though you might think you want him by your side. He is obviously not relationship material and he isn’t someone who can be your life partner. You need a real man who’ll be mature enough to know what he wants from life. A man who’ll be strong enough to fight his own demons.