They say being a mum is the most rewarding job in the world. You will be told how amazing it is to see your child smile, hear them laugh, and watch them grow. And even though all this is true, a lot of new mums and even the most seasoned ones will tell you that there are days when you will doubt your every action as a mother. Truth is, no one will ever tell you that the first couple of months are the hardest months of your life. In this article, I will pour my heart out and let you in on some of the things I wish people shared about becoming a mum.
The first month is the hardest
Immediately after you take your baby home from the hospital, life takes a drastic change. Not only are you healing from having pushed out a whole baby out of you, you’re also taking care of this helpless little human. Simply put, the transition is hard for you and even your partner.
You might hate breastfeeding
In the months leading up to your delivery date, you will have read or heard from other mums that breastfeeding is one of the most beautiful life experiences. You will also hear that it is during breastfeeding that you connect most with your baby. But no one really tells you that you might actually hate it or might not even have enough milk for your baby. You will then hate yourself for not enjoying the one things that’s said to bond you with your baby.
Expect to be very tired
Not only will you be physically tired, you will also be emotionally drained. You will be tired from all the sleepless nights you stay up with your baby, from all the crying and worrying. And all this is completely normal. You will also be an emotional wreck from all the fluctuations of hormones in your body. There are days you will cry silently and there are days you will be full of happiness.
You will think about life before the baby
Few months after the baby arrives and life has taken a drastic change, there are moments when you will silently think about life before the baby and you wonder if you made the right choice. You even ask yourself if becoming a mum is what you really wanted.
No one ever tells you how you then think you are the worst mom in the entire world for having these thoughts. You think you are probably the only mom in existence that has felt this way. No one ever tells you that you are not the only one.
There are moments you will feel very alone
Even though you might have a partner, there are moments you will feel alone when you become a mum. It could be in the middle of the night when your baby wakes up and your partner is fast asleep in bed without a care in the world. It could also be when you doubt if you’re really giving your baby your all. No one tells you this but it’s actually normal. All you have to remember is that no one is perfect and all you have to do is believe that you are enough.
Every baby is unique
There are moments that you can’t just help it but compare your baby with other babies. Maybe another baby is already crawling or sitting up by himself and yours isn’t. So you worry and go into panic mode. However, every baby is unique and totally unpredictable. So let your baby go on his own pace and don’t worry over it.