The most confusing stage in any relationship is the – taking a break stage. And even though not all couples go through this stage, so many others go through this trying episode. So what exactly does taking a break mean for a relationship? In general, it simply means leaving all the responsibilities of the relationship. It could also mean a break from all the fighting and arguing, a break from the commitment, a break from feeling like they need to take care of their partner. And even though taking a break in a relationship does not necessarily mean a breakup, in some cases it ends up into a real breakup.
When It’s a Good Idea to Take a Break
If you can’t stop fighting
Fights are common in most relationships. In fact, even the happiest and healthiest of couples fight. But when you constantly fight and argue every single time you are together, then that’s a red flag. Additionally, if you argue over the same things over and over again without coming to an agreement, a break might be just what you need.
Spending time apart gives you space to re-balance your perspective and understand why you’re fighting and possibly come up with a solution to the fight.
I know I’ve said in previous articles that when your partner cheats on you, you should immediately walk away. But for some people, that’s a lot easier said than done. When you’ve built a strong emotional bond with someone, walking away over one mistake can be tough.
So if your partner has cheated on you, taking a break can help you clear your mind and figure out if it’s worth saving the relationship.
The relationship isn’t your priority
We are living in a fast paced world. So, it can get tricky when we have to balance a healthy relationship, busy careers and passions. However, if you find that other parts of your life are getting more attention and effort as compared to your relation, a break might help you put things into perspective.
Healthy relationships take a lot of effort. You need to make time for each other and be there for one another. This doesn’t mean you have to be 24/7 all about your relationship. Not at all. We all have careers and hobbies.
You haven’t been happy in a long time
Being in an unhappy relationship can lead to a lot of resentment for your partner. That’s why taking a break from the relationship is important.
If you do decide to take this option, it’s important to be honest with your partner. Tell them that you haven’t been happy for a while and you want to try something new. Sometimes, distance does make the heart grow fonder.
If you are having doubts about commitment
In a lot of relationships, major commitments like moving in together or marriage can be daunting for one or both of the partners. If you are having cold feet, it might be a good idea to take a break from each other and figure out if the relationship is something you truly want.
Staying away from each other might help you figure out how important your partner is to you and if they are worth committing to.