Despite popular belief, being a stay at home mum is one of the most important jobs on earth. I can’t think of a more rewarding job, nor a more challenging one than this one right here. Think about it this way: a stay at home mum is a queen. She has one of the most important jobs of all—managing the castle, all that it entails, and its inhabitants.
Yes, staying at home can be a big decision, especially if you have a career and have been used to praise, socialization, and a regular paycheck. You might even think that if you decide to stay home, it is a “step down,” a demotion of sorts. But nothing could be further from the truth.
Being a stay at home mum requires wearing a litany of hats. You’re a full-time babysitter, a nurse, a chef, a behavioural therapist, and most importantly, a teacher. I mean who can do all that by themselves?
If you decide, that yes, you are going to stay home with your child but aren’t sure how to navigate the new waters without completely losing yourself, allow me to offer you some ideas that will make your experience an exceptionally happy one. By following through with the suggestions below, you will feel successful, happy, and ready to tackle anything that comes your way.
Wake Up Early!
Some stay at home mums complain that they don’t have enough time for themselves. Valid point. Try getting up early, before the kids do. This is the first thing that you should keep in mind if you want to be a successful stay-at-home mum.
Being up before everyone else offers you alone time to get some personal things done. The house is quiet and peaceful—the perfect setting to do what you need to do. That could be taking an uninterrupted warm shower, reading passages from your favourite book, having a cup of coffee etc.
Waking up early offers you many opportunities to do what you need to do so that you don’t feel as though you’re missing out.
No, I don’t mean dress up like you’re going out dancing, but you don’t have to be in your pyjamas or sweats all day, either. How you dress makes a difference in your mood—on how you feel. So, dress casually but nicely.
You don’t need a ton of clothes! Stick with what fits you well and makes you feel pretty without much fuss. You can be at home and still dress to impress. You will feel so much better about yourself.
Exercise and Have Fun With Your Kids!
Taking care of your little ones doesn’t mean you give up on yourself. Take some time during the day to exercise. It will keep you strong, toned, and happy.
Have the children join you, and make it amusing by playing some fun workout music. They’ll use up a lot of energy and enjoy the time with you simultaneously.
Establish a Break
During the day, it’s important to set aside some time to do something quiet; perhaps set aside 20-30 minutes to read.
During this break, you and your kids can do something they personally enjoy. Encourage your kids to get creative. Research shows that creative activities, such as art, are wonderful for children.
Set Up a Routine!
Most stay at home mums respond well to a routine. For instance, from 8 – 9, breakfast and cartoons; from 9 – 12. chores and homework; from 12 – 1:00 p.m., lunch. After that, nap time, if appropriate, or personal time.
The routine, of course, will be based on the age of your children and your own personal views.
Hire a Babysitter!
Sometimes you might like to go out with friends, get pampered at a spa, or what-have-you. A babysitter or a trusted family member can help with that.
These little breaks can be the fuel you need to keep going. It’s like getting a mini-vacation. It’s revitalizing. Once you get home from your spa treatment or the movie you saw with your friends, you will have renewed energy. You can now refocus on your castle tasks. And remember, a happy mom, makes for a happy child!
Meet Up With Other Mums
Meeting up with other stay at home mums will provide you with support. Additionally, the kids get to socialize with other children and you with other like-minded moms. Not working outside the home sometimes can feel isolating, so talking to other adults is a nice treat.