Toxic relationship? A narcissist? I know some days can be tough and the worst part is when you are stuck in that dark hole and do not know how to get out of it. Toxic relationships are hard to leave and with a narcissist in the picture, things become even harder. A narcissist will often trigger a partner to a point of hysteria and then start recording their meltdowns. This recording will then later be used as evidence to “prove” their innocence and show your insanity. So now no one can believe that he is a narcissist because all they can see is you trowing a tantrum after all your buttons have been pushed. Do you think you might be dating a narcissist? Here are 6 signs to look out for.
Some people have the Narcissistic Personality Disorder which is a mental health condition characterized by:
- Feeling too important
- Lack of empathy for others
- An excessive need for attention and admiration
- Problems in relationships
They are often filled with extreme selfishness at the expense of others. These people have very little to no consideration for other people’s feelings.
Narcissists in relationships have these signs:
They are extremely charming in the beginning
These people will bombard you with love and acts to show you that they really want you. They will go the whole nine yards just to have you. They will also compliment you and tell you how great you are because they thing so highly of themselves and believe that they deserve the best too. Thing is, however, if you mess up one time, they turn it around on you.
Beware of anyone that feels attached too soon; telling you how compatible you are yet you just met.
The conversation is always about them
I did this. I did that. If it were not for me, then certain things would not have happened.
If your partner is this kind of a person, then he could be a narcissist. All credit goes to them and they do not think anyone else could be better than them.
They will not give you an ear because they are too busy talking about themselves.
Lack of empathy
They just lack the ability to feel what other people are feeling. They cannot validate, understand or accept other people’s feelings. They are detached from other people’s feelings.
Does your partner care about your tough day at work? Or the exam that is coming up and you need to study for? Or that you had a misunderstanding with your best friend and just needed to vent? Mostly, a narcissist would not care for any of these.
They do not have many or any long term friends
Their inability to connect emotionally with others makes their circle or friends really small. In most cases, it is reduced to acquaintances.
What’s even more appalling is that they will guilt trip you when you hang out with your own friends, saying that you do not spend time with him. He might even go ahead and trash talk your friends and berate you for having them.
Constantly pick on you
If you realize that your partner is always blaming you for his misfortunes or when you do something wring it is blown out of proportion, then you are dating a narcissist.
Think they are right and never apologize
Well, waiting for him to say he is sorry? You might wait an eternity. This is because narcissists believe they are always right and have no reason whatsoever to be sorry about. You’ll dry up waiting.
Such behavior as gaslighting, panicking when you hint at leaving the relationship as well as lashing out on you are other common characteristics of narcissists.
Do you think you have dated a narcissist before? How did you get out of the relationship?