Most of the times, when we’ve been in a relationship for so long, we can’t tell if we are just unhappy or just in toxic relationships.
All relationships are different. It is for this very reason that most people can’t really tell if they are in a toxic relationship.
Even so, there are some hard to ignore tell tale signs that you could be in this kind of relationship.
Here are some of the signs to look out for:
Abuse, be it verbal, emotional or physical, is the number one sign that you are in a toxic relationship.
If you partner is constantly bringing you down by saying hurtful things and even harming you physically, it’s time to move on.
A person that loves you will never hurt you intentionally.
Walking on eggshells
Do you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells around your partner? This is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
If you fear to bring up an issue with your partner because they might get angry at you and lash out, this is a sign of a toxic relationship.
You should always feel talking to your partner about anything and everything.
A little jealousy is normal and actually healthy for a relationship to work. But if your partner is too jealous to the point where they don’t allow you to have friends of the opposite sex, then that’s a red flag.
Uncontrolled jealousy often leads to insane behaviours such as hacking into your partner’s email account, looking through their text messages while they’re in the shower or even following them around town and showing up unannounced.
Toxic relationships have a way of making you feel like your whole world should revolve around your partner’s. This is why many people tend to lose other important relationships such as friendships and in some cases family, so as to concentrate on their romantic relationships.
Holding on to grudges
If you find that no matter how many times you say sorry to your partner over a mistake, they still bring them up later on in the relationship.
Someone who truly loves you will not hold on to your mistakes and hold them against you. This is a big sign of emotional abuse which is not healthy at all.
Questioning where you are all the time or becoming overly upset when you don’t immediately answer texts are both signs of controlling behaviour, which can contribute to toxicity in a relationship.
In some cases, these attempts of control over you can be a sign of abuse.
Ignoring your needs
In this case, you find that you are always doing what your partner likes and enjoys. On the other hand, your partner never wants to do the things that you enjoy doing.
Have you been in a toxic relationship? What were the major tale-tell signs that alerted you? Let me know in the comments section!