Whether we like it or not, some relationships just never work out. And that’s just how life is. But how do you know that your relationship is over and it’s time to move on?
Truth is, relationships aren’t always easy. Therefore, you shouldn’t walk out at the slightest sign of trouble or pain. In fact, nothing worth having comes easy.
Even so, you don’t have to stay in a troublesome relationship in the name of sticking it out. You have to prioritize your mental well being and happiness.
So, when is it appropriate to end a relationship and walk out? In this article, we will talk about some of the signs to look out for when identifying if your relationship is over.
There’s no trust
Trust is the number one most important ingredient of a healthy relationship. If there is no trust, there is no growth and happiness.
When you constantly don’t trust a lot of the things your partner says, it’s probably time to move on.
For instance, if they say they’re going out with their friends and you can’t be sure of what they’re really doing. For all you know, they could be having a secret relationship on the side.
You are constantly thinking about ending it
It’s normal to think about breaking up. But when you keep thinking about it more than usual, then your subconscious already knows it’s over.
If you just can’t stop feeling like you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore, even if you can’t put your finger on why then it’s time to go. Trust your gut.
You are unhappy
Every relationship has its highs and lows, which is completely normal. However, if the relationship you are currently in brings more pain than joy, then it’s probably better if you let it go and move on.
You might be blinded by the past happy moments of the relationship but if you aren’t happy, it’s not worth holding on to.
You put more effort into the relationship
Are you the one who is always calling in or texting to check in, make plans or initiate conversations to keep the relationship afloat?
If the answer is yes, your relationship is most definitely one sided and most probably over.
A relationship requires effort from both sides and if this isn’t the case, there is a very big problem.
The thought of them touching you makes you cringe
Touch is the number one way of showing your partner that you care, love and trust them. Sex, hugs, kisses and fondling are all types of touches that couples use to show their affection towards each other.
However, if the thought of them touching you makes you uncomfortable, it’s probably time to say goodbye to them.
They’re putting you down and making you feel worthless
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. So if your partner is lowering your self-esteem with constant hurtful comments, then it’s a clear sign that you should walk out.
Most of the times, you might tell yourself to ignore the comments but part of it may inevitably stick, and you worry that something is actually “wrong” with you.
Arguments are escalating
It’s completely normal and healthy for couples to fight and argue. However, if you don’t argue fairly, this is a red flag.
If your arguments turn physical or into shouting matches with words that hurt each other, this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
You no longer have fun together
Having fun together is a vital component to closeness in a relationship. So if the fun sparks aren’t happening you better walk out.
You have to be able to have fun with your partner and laugh a lot because life is too short not to laugh until your belly hurts.
With those few pointers, always remember that: There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.